COViD and The Lifestyle
October 12 Update:
We are currently located in a Tier 2 area, which will be reviewed in 4 weeks time.
Tier 2 is for areas with a higher level of infections. This means the following additional measures are in place:
People must not meet with anybody outside their household or support bubble in any indoor setting, whether at home or in a public place
People must not meet in a group of more than 6 outside, including in a garden or other space.
People should aim to reduce the number of journeys they make where possible. If they need to travel, they should walk or cycle where possible, or to plan ahead and avoid busy times and routes on public transport.
The bar has been open for members to enjoy in a COViD secure environment since July, however for the short term we will only be open for physically for art and sexuality workshops and online parties. Members are advised to follow regulations for their own local areas.
The bar will be open again once local restrictions ease as it is not practical nor enjoyable to sit on ones own! Keep updated as to what's on via our events page.
When the local area has returned to National Alert level 1:
When you visit us you should:
- follow the limits on the number of other people you should meet with as a group - no more than six people unless you all live together (or are in the same support bubble)
- avoid social interaction with anyone outside the group you are with, even if you see other people you know
- provide your contact details so that you can be contacted if needed by the NHS Test and Trace programme
It is critical that everybody observes the following key behaviours:
HANDS - Wash your hands regularly and for 20 seconds.
FACE - Wear a face covering in indoor settings where social distancing may be difficult, and where you will come into contact with people you do not normally meet.
SPACE - Stay 2 metres apart from people you do not live with where possible, or 1 metre with extra precautions in place (such as wearing face coverings or increasing ventilation indoors).
From September 14th, everyone across the UK have new guidelines to adhere to which include:
You can meet in groups of up to 6 people from two households (your support bubble counts as one household) in any location - public or private, indoors or outdoors. You do not always have to meet with the same household - you can meet with different households at different times. However, it remains the case - even inside someone’s home - that you should socially distance from anyone not in your household or bubble.
When you are outside you can continue to meet in groups of up to six people from different households, following social distancing guidelines
You should not:
gather indoors in groups of more than 6 people from two households (your support bubble counts as one household) - this includes when dining out or going to the pub
gather outdoors in a group of more than 6 people from different households; (gatherings larger than 6 should only take place if everyone is from just two households)
interact socially with anyone outside the group you are attending a place with, even if you see other people you know
hold or attend celebrations (such as parties) where it is difficult to maintain social distancing
stay overnight away from your home with members of more than one other household (your support bubble counts as one household)
Limits on the number of people you can see socially have changed. From Monday 14 September, when meeting friends and family you do not live with (or have formed a support bubble with) you must not meet in a group of more than 6, indoors or outdoors. This is against the law and the police will have the powers to enforce these legal limits, including to issue fines (fixed penalty notices) of £100, doubling for further breaches up to a maximum of £3,200.
From September 22nd::
You do not need to socially distance from anyone in your household, meaning the people you live with. You also do not need to socially distance from someone you’re in an established relationship with, or anyone in your legally-permitted support bubble if you are in one.
Limits on the number of people you can see socially have changed. When meeting friends and family you do not live with (or have formed a support bubble with) you must not meet in a group of more than 6, indoors or outdoors. This is against the law and the police will have the powers to enforce these legal limits, including to issue fines (fixed penalty notices) of £200, doubling for further breaches up to a maximum of £6,400.
What does that mean for us?
We can still play in the lifestyle, but we will have to change what we do a little. As we're a fully licensed recognised private members club who work alongside our local authorities, we can function within full legislation. As we're not a nightclub, sauna or similar, the legislation and guidelines released means we can operate within the law to offer a safe service for members. There will be no party nights or live music nights for a while to come yet, but lifestyle lovers can still socialise on a smaller scale. You can still see if another couple will want to explore further with you. You can ask a single to join in on your adventures. You can create your own special unicorn bubble.
You can't be greedy anymore, but you can be selective! Think of it as no longer having a quick takeaway that leaves you wanting more, but rather indulging in a five course dinner that fully satisfies you! The lifestyle is going to become more relaxed and you'll savour experiences more, giving more opportunity to discover new pleasures with just a few people in your bubbles.
The hand sanitising and hand washing regimes that we've all become accustomed to will continue, but that's not a bad thing! The club has new lower capacity levels and will measure attendance levels, so it's vital that you tell us when you're coming by registering for opening hours as we'd hate to turn you away if we're full! We support the NHS Track and Trace system to keep our members safe.
The members bar downstairs (and outside!) will continue to be the centre of socialising, and members are reminded that they must remain within their group of no more than 6 people. If members wish to use the private rooms upstairs, they can book them at the bar to ensure everything is kept clean, safe and socially distanced, like hotel rooms, but with added kink! We've changed some aspects upstairs to make this possible for you, we hope you enjoy the new facilities.
It may sound like a like of things to take in, but we aim to operate in a way where you can have a relaxed drink, chat and possibly play without worry. Our recent trips to supermarkets have been too stressful, we want to provide a safe haven away from the rest of the world.
So, the way your club will operate will change to match how the lifestyle will need to evolve for the future; more intimate, more selective, more meaningful.
The acts associated with sexual intimacy can have as many variations and alternatives as the imagination can conceive. Instead of kissing and sexual intercourse, try mutual masturbation, cam and phone sexting, watching or reading erotica, watching your partner pleasure themselves, kink role play... there's so many new adventures to try!
What about starting a new relationship?
For those people who would like to start a new relationship, that should be considered carefully. All of us should be practicing social distancing at this time due to the pandemic, and dating does not comply with recommendations for social distancing. While this time is challenging, social distancing is of the utmost importance to keep you and your loved ones safe.if you're going to expand your household bubble, now is the time to be selective!
Are any forms of intimacy and sex completely safe right now?
Six feet of separation required by social distancing may not entirely slow you down. Masturbation, phone sex with a partner who doesn’t live with you, and sex toys (used just by you) could play a big role in sexual intimacy, particularly in this moment. And if you’re not in the mood for sex and are wondering how anyone can engage in intimacy in this moment, that’s also normal. People have different psychological responses to stress. If living through a pandemic has dampened your sexual desire, it will return once life returns to normal.
If you do have a regular intimate partner, keep in mind that coronavirus is not the only issue that you should be concerned about. You should use contraception if you are not planning on conceiving, and you should use a condom to protect against sexually transmitted infections.
Sex with yourself, i.e. masturbation is excellent for your physical and mental well-being. Masturbation will not spread COVID-19, especially if you wash your hands (and any sex toys) with soap and water for at least 20 seconds before and after sex. If you use a shared computer, phone or touch screen whilst masturbating please disinfect these devices thoroughly. The next safest partner is someone you live with. Sex can be a really great way to have fun, stay connected and relieve anxiety during this potentially stressful time, if:
you live with your sexual partner, you are both feeling well and you both consent to sex, and
you haven’t been exposed to COVID-19 and are not in the “at risk” group of having a severe illness with COVID-19.
However, if you have symptoms of COVID-19 (these include a new persistent cough or fever of 37.7°C or above) you should self-isolate for 7 days to prevent further transmissions. If someone you live with or someone you have recently had sex with (within or outside of your household) has these symptoms then you need to self-isolate for 14 days. Self-isolating means no physical contact – no hugging, kissing or sex, and have separate sleeping arrangements. Irrespective of symptoms, if you or a sexual partner has a medical condition that may lead to a more severe illness with COVID-19, you should avoid sex.
You should avoid close contact — including sex — with anyone outside your household. If you don’t live with your sexual partner, consider moving in to the same living space temporarily. Additional travel puts your friends, family and community at risk, so make a responsible choice. Video dates, phone sex, “sexting” or chat rooms may be options for you. Don’t share images or participate in recorded content if you don’t want to.
Kissing passes on COVID-19. Avoid kissing anyone who is not part of your household. If you are going to have sex, you can reduce the harm to yourself and your partners. Condoms can reduce contact with sperm (cum) or saliva (spit) especially during oral and anal sex.
Rimming (mouth on anus) is very likely to spread COVID-19 as the virus is present in faeces and can enter your mouth, so you should avoid it during this time. Washing before and after sex is essential. Wash your hands and sex toys with soap and warm water. Do not share sex toys during this time.
If you arrange to meet someone outside of your bubble for sex, you could be at risk of being charged for not observing social distancing. This could lead to a fine of £60 - £120. Everyone needs to be socially distancing at this time (keeping two metres away from others), handwashing for 20 seconds regularly and remembering to avoid touching your face. If you are going to have conventional sex, it should only be with someone who lives in the same household (your bubble) as you if you both have no symptoms of COVID-19. You can reduce the harm to yourself and your partners by:
Avoid kissing anyone who is not part of your household. Kissing passes on COVID-19.
Rimming (mouth on anus) is very likely to spread COVID-19 as the virus in faeces can enter your mouth so you should avoid it during this time.
Washing before and after sex is essential. Wash your hands and sex toys with soap and warm water. Do not share sex toys during this time.
References - BASHH, Harvard Publications, Gov.uk